Islamic Reasoning

Marrying only one or more wives - what is recommended?

2016-01-18T03:51:00.001+05:30

a) The Hanbali scholar Al-Hajjaawi may Allaah have mercy upon him wrote, “It is recommended to take only one (wife).” [Zaad Al-Mustaqni’]

b) Ibn Qudaamah may Allaah have mercy upon him from the Hanbali School of jurisprudence, said in Ash-Sharh Al-Kabeer: “It is more appropriate to marry only one wife. The author of Al-Muharrar [i.e. Abul Barakaat Al-Majd ibn Taymiyyah] said this, based on the saying of Allaah (which means) {...But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one}.” [End of quote from Ash-Sharh Al-Kabeer authored by Shams-ud-deen Ibn Qudaamah]

c) Ash-Shirbeeni from the Shaafi’i School of jurisprudence, said in Mughni Al-Muhtaaj: “It is a Sunnah not to marry more than one wife if there is no apparent need.” [End of quote]

d) Al-Jassaas, from the Hanafi School of jurisprudence, said in his Tafseer (interpretation of the Quran): “With regard to the saying of Allaah (which means): {…two or three or four…}, it implies that it is permissible for a man to marry two wives if he so wishes, three if he so wishes, or four if he so wishes, and he has the choice to marry whichever number among these. He said: if he fears that he will not treat them fairly, then instead of four, he should marry three, and if he fears that he will not be just between three, then instead of three he should marry two, and if he still fears that he will not be just between two, then he should marry only one.” [End of quote]

e) Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen may Allaah have mercy upon him said: “It is safer to restrict oneself to only one wife. However, if one sees that one wife is not enough for him and he cannot maintain his chastity by having only one wife, then we enjoin him to marry a second, a third, or a fourth, until he feels comfortable, lowers his gaze, and enjoys peace of mind.” [Excerpt from Ash-Sharh Al-Mumti’]

[Islamweb]

Compiled by: Asim ul Haq

Dear sisters! Why do you fear so much this ONE hukm of Allah!

2016-01-16T14:15:00.001+05:30

A man asked Sheikh Ibn Baz during a program in the sahuur of one of the last ten nights of Ramadan (1408 A.H)

He asked: O sheikh! whenever I tell my wife about my intention to marry a second wife, she normally threatens me that she will pack her load and leave the house. Please, how will you advice me and her?

Sheikh answered: O female slave of Allah (the wife)! Fear Allah, for the right of marriage lies with the husband, and it is not for a wife to prevent her husband from taking a second, third or fourth wife.

It is Allah who has ordained this law from above the seven heavens, and He knows what is good for men and women. He has permitted mathna for many benefits, and some of these benefits go to the first wife herself. The husband could be a miser before, but Allah will make him generous to the first wife after the mathna due to the fact that he must be just to' the two wives (by spending equally on them). Furthermore, Allah could reward you due to your contentment with the mathna (law of Allah) or even provide the second wife with kids that will be your only source of help in the future. Or maybe your husband dislikes some attitudes in you, and when he takes another wife, he finds out that you are even far better than the new wife, then he may cherish you more.

The most serious part is that, there is a grave danger in you preventing your husband from mathna because Allah can void your deeds, as you have disliked part of what Allah revealed in Quran (Suratul Nisa: 3). And Allah said: “That is because they disliked what Allah revealed, therefore, He nullified their deeds” (Suratul Muhammad:9). And negating only a verse of the Quran is sufficient to nullify one’s good deeds

Source: Happy Muslim Family

Islamic Reasoning - Nikah Section

Salah – it is fardh even to you sisters in the market!

2016-01-13T16:57:00.000+05:30

By: Nida Khan

There are many Muslim sisters who like to be in the markets, their hobbies include shopping. Islam is the most beautiful way of life. It does not suppress our desires but it channelize those desires in a proper way. Shopping is not haram in Islam, but if that shopping takes you away from your Lord, then it becomes haraam for sure.

I see many of my sisters who wander in the market without even considering that they have to pray Salah – an obligation ordered by their Creator. Yes! Salah – it is fardh even to you sisters! When you don’t have any special places like mosques (especially in India), then for Allah’s sake don’t leave your home at the time of Salah. If you show guts leaving your home at the time of Salah, then show guts even to perform Salah in the markets, gardens, grounds, etc. because a believer can offer Salah on every clean place on earth. If you don’t have guts to pray in the market or gardens, then do not challenge Allah by leaving your home and miss your Salah.

My sisters, I am sorry to say, you do not fear Allah even in the month of Ramadhan. When our beloved prophet ordered us to remain at home, we as a “modern women” throws the commandment of the prophet in the dust and walk shamelessly in the market for shopping and having delicious food. Believe me sisters, you have to stand before Allah and answer all your deeds which you used to do on this earth. Your delicious food of the market may turn a food of Hell in the hereafter. Your pretty dresses may turn the dresses of hell. Your enjoyment may lead you to Fire. Fear Allah sisters.. Fear Allah.

Even we don’t care about hijaab when Allah has created us the most precious creation on earth – precious than men, obviously :) – and ordered us to maintain hijaab as we are the creation who attracts. It is painful to see my sisters without hijaab and least bothered about Salah – and that too in the markets. Some wear western outfit with scarf and think they are observing hijab while the others apply huge make-up and shamelessly wear fancy burqa.

Think on it, what will happen when you die? Will you be shrouded in the fancy burqa? Or apply make-up for your journey towards graveyard? When you go simple to meet Allah why are you so concerned about make-up and style to meet non-mahrams?

O Allah, pour hayaa on me and my sisters; forgive our sins and make us from those who follow your commandments. Aameen.